>> Monday, March 8, 2010
Michelle's little Life lessons, learned the hard way.
There is no effect more disproportionate to its cause than the happiness bestowed by a small compliment. ~Robert Brault
Complements are~ Free, easy, low fat, and Full of Joy, what’s better then that?
As a rule you should give 3 complements a day. Not only do you brighten someone’s day, you bring yourself a little bit of joy to boot.
I never use to give complements…never…ever. My twisted thinking was…Why should I say nice things? People should give me complements, I’m the shy one.
“Shy?” That’s just a nice way of saying that I came across as a big-rude selfish-bitch. My insecurities, poor self image, and social anxiety prevented me from seeing out side of myself. Poor little ol me....The mind reels.
If I liked someone’s hair, thought they were smart, or awesome at something, I assumed they knew that. After all, they know themselves better then I do, they must know how wonderful they are.
The sad facts are, I hated them for being pretty, smart, and put together, I sure the heck wasn’t going to reinforce their wonderfulness.
I felt everyone was better then I was, so being the lesser, I didn’t have to make the effort. Plus I had my pride … didn’t want to be seen as a “kiss butt, brown nosier, or a follower.
I didn’t need anyone; I was tough, cool and could care-less what anyone thought of me. Yeah sure, if you believe that, I know of a Lottery Company in which presently owes you the sum of $800,000.00 US Dollars and all you have to do to claim the money is send me the FedEx fee of $150.00.
Now I’m a grown up, wife, and mother…God’s been doing some work on me over the last dozen years....I'v gotten over my big bad bitchy self.
I have learned, beneath every Mad is Sadness, behind a bitchy snob is insecurities, and under ugly is God’s beauty. However there is evil, and you should just steer clear of that Sh*t!
Today, I no longer feel envy pains; well they’re not so strong that I can’t ignore them. So giving a complement or three is no sweat, saying something nice is not longer all that hard.
If I’m thinking that Denise’s hair looks exceptionally shiny and soft today, and she must have gotten that hair spray build up problem she told me about, taken care of…I tell her. Well not the part about the build up, not that I ever even noticed she had a problem with it.
“Hey Denise, your hair is looking exceptionally shiny and sexy hot today.” Yes I’m a dork, and I don’t care!
If I’m thinking it any more, I say it (the nice things that is) We all love complements…you know you do, I know I do, a good old ol kind word, can make my day…
So as a rule: give at least three complements a day, and mean them!
What’s the point? Why should you?
God was just showing off when he created you. ~From the movie Keeping the Faith