>> Wednesday, June 2, 2010
A smile is the light in the window of your face that tells people you're at home. ~Author Unknown
There is a reason there are so many quoits about “a Smile”
A smile costs nothing but gives much. It enriches those who receive without making poorer those who give. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. None is so rich or mighty that he cannot get along without it and none is so poor that he cannot be made rich by it. Yet a smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away. Some people are too tired to give you a smile. Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give. ~Author Unknown
Growing up I had messed up teeth and hated them, my front teeth were huge *think horse.* I had what you would call a cross bite, but I just called it fangs! I often would fanaticize about being a vampire and if I sharpened them up a bit I could suck your blood.
Being that I was a blood sucking vampire horse, I didn’t smile. I made great effort to not show my teeth, even to the point of covering my mouth when I laughed.
With all my Fat and Fang issues I came across as cold and bitchy to those around me, making me more Vampireish….tho I don’t see many Fat Vamps.
(Right about now my Mom and my dear BFF Tanya are screaming at their computer…"SHUT UP YOU WERENT FAT"!!! But it’s my Blog and my Body image issues, so bite me. )
It took until I was out of high school and almost 20 years old for my parents to get me some much needed braces. My parents must have hated me to make me go thought high school with a fat fang face, or they just never wanted me to date.
Even after the braces came off I still had a hard time cracking a smile at anyone. I was so conditioned to hide my teeth I had to relearn that expression.
At some point in my life I did figure out that a simple smile made me a warmer person, more likeable, approachable. I didn’t enjoy being perceived as a hard ass, bitches need friends too.
I did an experiment…When out shopping I would smile at everyone I made eye contact with. I still do this today, well when I’m not in a completely pissy mood that is.
Men almost always smile back, if it’s an older man I may even get a wink or “Hello.”
If he looks confused he may asked were the Salt is.
You do have to be careful, once a guy asked me if I could give him a few bucks. “Dude I’m not your mom.”
Women, on the other hand, smile back a lot less. Mostly they will look away quick, trying to pretend they didn’t see me smiling at them, Snobs.
This also depends on the age, women my age with kids in the cart are more likely to give me a knowing smile, saying my kids are making me crazy too let’s park em in the cookies and go get a drink.
Then the older ladies will stop and talk to my daughter…”oh she’s so cute, how old she is”…always followed with a story of how her daughter would scream in the store too, or how they grow up so fast, before I know it I’ll be paying for her wedding.
Wedding...Naw…I’m just never going to get her braces.
It is said that 55% of communication comes from nonverbal cues, such as facial expression and gestures.
So I’m thinking that there is a lot more meaning in a smile then I ever thought.
Think about that the next time you are rushing around with lots on your mind, slap on a smile and the whole world gets a little warmer. Plus it makes people wonder what you've been up to.
Everytime you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing. ~Mother Teresa
A friendly look, a kindly smile, one good act, and life's worthwhile. ~Author Unknown
A kind heart is a fountain of gladness, making everything in its vicinity freshen into smiles. ~Washington Irving
Beauty is power; a smile is its sword. ~Charles Reade
If you don't have a smile, I'll give you one of mine. ~Author Unknown
I've never seen a smiling face that was not beautiful. ~Author Unknown
Wear a smile and have friends; wear a scowl and have wrinkles. ~George Eliot
Always remember to be happy because you never know who's falling in love with your smile. ~Author Unknown
Smile Stupid ~